Should You Raise Your Kids in a Christian Bubble?

Christian BubbleIf you read my “About Me” page, you’ll see that my mission as a mom is to raise my kids in a home where faith means more than going to church on Sunday.  Indeed, that is the whole purpose of this blog – to help inspire others to think deeply about what that means for their own families and to pursue the same mission.
 
I proactively seek to apply faith every single day for my kids, to surround their hearts and minds with God. But in doing so, I sometimes have wondered:  Am I building a Christian bubble around my kids? And if so, is that good or bad?
 
For clarity, let me define what I mean by “bubble”.  I’ve long held a negative (and unfortunately judgmental) view of Christians whose faith encompasses them so much that they’ve seemingly lost perspective on the world around them and can no longer relate to non-believers in a “normal” way. Faith seems to be the ONLY thing they think about.
 
“What are you doing for lunch today, Sarah?”
 
Sarah (in my perceived Christian bubble): “Well, Lord willing I’ll go to McDonald’s. If it’s God’s will, I’ll find a parking space. But you never know, because it’s God’s plan, not mine! See you soon. God bless you.”
 
Of course that’s an over characterization, but you get the point. I’ve been reflecting on this and have deconstructed my bubble concerns into two key elements: Bubble Visibility and Bubble Durability.
 

BUBBLE VISIBILITY: Can others see IN and can you see OUT?

 
When I was about 8, we lived across the street from a pastor’s family. They had two girls, ages 5 and 3. We were playing one day when the 5-year-old suddenly asked if I had the Holy Spirit. I didn’t know what that meant at the time and responded, “I don’t know, but I’m saved”. That was the last time her mom let me play with her.
 
She was in a Christian bubble where no one else was allowed to see IN. This is not Biblical. Jesus calls us to let our light shine for the world to see. If we are in a bubble where we hide ourselves away such that non-believers cannot see us, we are ignoring our explicit calling. (Matthew 5:16)
 
When I was about 10, I invited my best friend to church. It was Bible trivia night. (Horrible night to bring a friend, right?) My friend had never been to church in her life. She got the question, “What is the first book of the Bible?” She had no idea. I remember being absolutely floored that anyone would not know the answer to that question. I asked her afterward, “Did you REALLY not know the first book of the Bible? EVERYONE KNOWS THAT.” She never came back to church again and we drifted apart. I still wonder if that was her only church experience.
 
I was in a Christian bubble where I was unable to see OUT. I didn’t have perspective on the lives of others without the same faith experience, and therefore could not relate to my friend appropriately. This is like the Pharisees (the religious elite of Jesus’ time) who spent so much time focusing on their own religious laws that they missed the entire heart of Jesus’ message on loving and relating to others. (e.g., Matthew 9:11)
 

 BUBBLE DURABILITY: How protected are you spiritually?

 
In college and for several years after, being a Christian was more of a “hat” I wore; it was an “extension” of myself. There was me, and there was my belief system attached to me. It never “got in the way” of life or of non-Christian friendships. There was no bubble at all. That doesn’t even mean I was taking off my Christian hat. If anyone ever asked, I would have proudly said I was a Christian. But it’s amazing how many non-Biblical things you can do while wearing something as inconsequential as a Christian “hat”. I certainly found it easy to wear that hat through all the parties I went to.
 
When you don’t have any Christian bubble– when you aren’t surrounding yourself daily by faith application – you are not protecting yourself spiritually and you are at great risk for sin to dominate your life. John 15:18 says Christians “do not belong to the world”. We need to have a durable faith-based bubble to understand how to set ourselves apart as we are called.
 
Finding my current church about 8 years ago profoundly changed me because I was exposed to Biblically sound theology for the first time in several years. This shifted my belief system into true faith that started to transform my heart. A Christian bubble started to emerge as I spent more time in prayer and Bible study.
 
A bubble now existed, but it was still fragile. Non-believers could easily deflate me with questions I didn’t have good answers for.
 
My faith has grown a great deal in the last year, in large part (if not entirely) due to the conscious decision to raise my kids in a home where faith is applied every day.  In proactively seeking to make faith a part of everyday life for my kids, my identity has become wholly Christian in a way it never had been.
 
My bubble, crafted with daily faith application, is now durable. This bubble is indeed Biblical, necessary AND prescribed for all Christians! What I call a bubble, the Bible calls armor:
 
(Ephesians 6:10-17) “…Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground…Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled round your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace…take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”
 

THE RIGHT KIND OF CHRISTIAN BUBBLE

 
Reflecting on this breakdown of visibility and durability, I realized that the negative connotations I held about Christian bubbles were around visibility issues. Indeed, as Christian parents we have to be concerned with making sure that the bubbles we build around our kids don’t obstruct their view out or others’ view in. But we should never fear building a durable, spiritually protective bubble around them. If we don’t, they will not be prepared to engage in the spiritual battle of life.
 
It’s your choice daily – are you giving your kids Christian armor or a Christian hat?
 

DISCUSSION POINT

 
I would really love to encourage more discussion from readers, so I will be adding a “Discussion Point” to all new posts. You all have valuable insights and experiences and I hope you will jump in and share your comments here or on Facebook! Today’s question: What is the biggest challenge you find in building your kids’ faith armor daily? (e.g., Is it not top of mind? Is it not knowing what to do? Is it push back from your kids? Is it lack of time to focus? etc.)

7 Comments

  1. Rosann on January 26, 2012 at 10:58 AM

    Natasha, this is beautifully written. I can relate with you on so many things in this post. Two things come to mind immediately. 1) when I was a child, my parents weren’t Christian or church-goers. They didn’t profess to believe one way or the other. We just didn’t discuss God or actively do anything to worship Him. However, I lived in a predominantly Mormon community. I recall being turned off from anything religion related because the other kids in school wouldn’t be my friend because our family didn’t go to church and we weren’t Mormon. (My point here is not to bash on Mormons, just to share my experience.) Later in life, I opened my heart to God and living the life of Christian faith. 2) I attend a weekly Bible study group at my church and we recently read the book Crazy Love by Francis Chan. If you haven’t read it, you’d probably enjoy it. It really opened my eyes to the importance of living passionately for God. So I do believe there needs to be a healthy balance, but one that demonstrates a JOY filled, love and passion for God and the life He wants us to live. In living that way, others whether believers or not, will witness that JOY and might naturally feel curious or inclined to strive for that same feeling themselves. In my parenting, I teach my daughters (ages 3 and 6) truth from the Bible and then I (do my best) to live the way I believe God calls us to live as Christians…with the fruit of the Spirit, wearing the full armor of God, steadfast in faith, etc… Since my daughters watch me like a hawk, I know as they grow they will naturally learn what it means to be a Christian. Or at least that’s my hope.

    Love the way you describe the Christian bubble. Really really great words here.

    Blessings,
    ~Rosann



    • Vicki Woodard on January 26, 2012 at 2:23 PM

      Great book by Francis Chan, “Crazy Love”. Did it in a small group “great read”!



      • Natasha @ Christian Mom Thoughts on January 30, 2012 at 10:41 PM

        Vicki, I recommend Crazy Love to everyone – it really is amazing!



    • Natasha @ Christian Mom Thoughts on January 30, 2012 at 10:41 PM

      Rosann, Thanks so much for your comment! I read Crazy Love last year also, and it was my favorite read of 2011, along with Timothy Keller’s Generous Justice. It definitely impacted me profoundly – particularly reading Chan’s description of the “Lukewarm Christian”. One of our pastors made the distinction in a recent sermon between salvation and freedom. Salvation only comes through belief in Jesus, but freedom comes from living filled with the Spirit. When we nurture our faith to the point of a durable spiritual armor/bubble, we realize the fullness of the life God wants us to live. Thanks again and I’m looking forward to reading your blog! 🙂



  2. David Crain on January 26, 2012 at 11:09 AM

    I don’t know if this is a discussion point, but in Sunday school in the 1950s, we used to sing “Onward Christian Soldiers”. I see now how that great hymn is rooted in your Bible quote Ephesians 6:10-17.



    • Natasha @ Christian Mom Thoughts on January 30, 2012 at 10:43 PM

      We used to sing “Onward Christian Soldiers” in my church growing up. On one of the kids’ “Bible Songs” CDs there is one called “I’m in the Lord’s Army” (similar analogy)!



  3. Lisa on September 3, 2018 at 9:02 AM

    I know this post is a few years old, but I’ve only recently found this blog! Despite going to church and Sunday school as a child, I only recently began attending a sound bible believing church and have truly recognized Jesus Christ as my Savior. What makes it hardest for me is that I’m pretty new at this so even at 4 and 5 years old they can stump me with questions! It’s like we’re learning this together, and in a way I think it’s great for all of us! We homeschool, and we start each day out with a bible lesson so it forces me to stay in the word every day, and I’m forced to study a little harder and extra in order to answer their questions!