Will Your Kids Become Undecided Voters?

The Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life recently released a report on the religious affiliations of Americans. Their comprehensive analysis drew on surveys of 17,000 adults. What they found has been making headlines everywhere:

One in five adults now have no religious affiliation, with 13.9% of the population saying they believe in “nothing in particular.”

That’s 33 million people who are, for all intents and purposes, “undecided” about their faith. This group has grown by 20% in the last five years alone.

It’s important to note that these people aren’t atheist or agnostics, who were tallied separately. Atheists have decided they don’t believe in God. Agnostics have decided that it’s not possible to know about God. Those who believe in “nothing in particular” have only decided to be undecided.

USA Today featured a quote from a member of the “nothing in particular” group. Rebecca Cardone, the student body president at California Lutheran University, said:

“I like the ambiguity of going without a label,” she says. “I prefer to stress the importance of acting with compassion rather than choosing a predetermined system of beliefs.”

Why should you care that more and more people are of Ms. Cardone’s mentality?

Three-fourths of this group were brought up in a religious tradition – mostly Protestant. They had parents just like me and you, who told them about Jesus, took them to church, and raised them in faith.

They didn’t switch religions; they just stopped caring. They came to believe that there is more joy in being undecided than fulfillment in being committed.

How does that happen? I think we can learn a lot about the premises that lead young people to a perpetual state of believing in “nothing in particular” by breaking down Ms. Cardone’s quote.

As Christian parents, we need to be aware of these premises and work to intentionally educate our kids on why they are false.

“I like the ambiguity of going without a label.”

Premise 1: What you like has bearing on what is true.

When making a decision about faith, you should immediately know you’re on the wrong track if you prioritize what you “like.” Quite frankly, it doesn’t matter what you like. I like unicorns, but that doesn’t make them real. What we have an affinity for has no bearing on what is true.

Premise 2: Ambiguity is a good thing.

You may well be more comfortable before making a decision than after. That’s generally true in life, but much more so in matters of faith. A faith decision requires you to commit to something without complete answers and then live your life accordingly. Maintaining ambiguous beliefs is an easy way to maximize comfort and minimize the natural outcome of responsibility that comes from making a faith decision. Decisiveness can be hard, but that doesn’t mean ambiguity is preferable.

Premise 3: Being labeled is a bad thing.

It’s human nature to want to be in control. Somehow we lose a little of that feeling of control when we are labeled as part of a group. We feel we’ve handed the reins of our identity to the person using the label. But the Apostle Paul makes it clear that our identity is gloriously labeled with Christ’s name; he used the terms “in Christ,” “in Him,” or “in the Lord” 160 times in the Bible to describe who we are. The negative connotations of labeling are purely secular.

“I prefer to stress the importance of acting with compassion rather than choosing a predetermined system of beliefs.”

Premise 4: Choosing to live by individual virtues is different than choosing to live by a predetermined system of beliefs.

Acting with compassion is a predetermined system of beliefs. Just because you pick and choose beliefs (like compassion), rather than taking them in the complete context in which they were meant to function, doesn’t mean you’re not working from a pre-determined belief system yourself. You’re just not calling that belief system “religion.” We all act according to a belief system.

Election Day is tomorrow and it’s estimated that 1-2 million people remain undecided. About 30 percent of them will just not vote. After tomorrow, the power of the undecided vote sitting in their hands will vanish.

Right now, each of us holds a faith vote in our hands. Jesus says we must cast that vote for Him – make a decision – before our own Election Day: the day we die. Unfortunately that day is not clearly marked on our calendars like the Tuesday after the first Monday in November is for undecided voters. If we die holding our undecided vote in our hands, Jesus says he’ll know just how to count it:

“He who is not with me is against me.” Matthew 12:30

What is your take on the growing group of people who believe in “nothing in particular?” What do you think leads people to choose ambiguity?

8 Comments

  1. David Crain on November 5, 2012 at 10:23 AM

    It’s a narcissitic age when (mostly young) people proclaim they decide their own morality.



    • Natasha @ Christian Mom Thoughts on November 27, 2012 at 2:06 PM

      I agree – there is definitely a primary self-interest when we get to this point in society.



  2. Kellie Titchnell on November 5, 2012 at 11:20 AM

    “Acting with compassion is a predetermined system of beliefs.” I love that line!!!!!! I couldn’t agree with you more.

    I have always felt that people who are undecided about God yet believe in being a “good person” are the most deceived. They believe they are making a choice when in fact they are allowing other people to make that choice for them, i.e. “I don’t want to be one of THOSE people.” There is no informed choice only a deception.

    I walked away from the church for many years. Not because I was undecided about God, but because I didn’t have any training on what to “do” with God. I didn’t know how He fit into my life. And I certainly had no idea about having a relationship with Him. I thought that was only for priests and nuns. But then the day came when God began to woo me into relationship with Him and sent the Holy Spirit to minister to me. It has been 10 years since I received Jesus and got born again.

    I pray the same will happen to those who are undecided. Since they have been raised in church and with faith I believe there will come a day when God will do the same for them and what a joyous day that will be!!!

    Thank you for this post and God bless.



    • Natasha @ Christian Mom Thoughts on November 27, 2012 at 2:10 PM

      “I have always felt that people who are undecided about God yet believe in being a “good person” are the most deceived.” – I completely agree with you! It seems like it’s so fashionable for people to say they “just want to be good people” when in reality, why does it matter if you are good when you don’t believe in objective morality? Your personal experience with not knowing what to do with God is so common today, and I had the same experience. It’s my hope that in some small way this blog will make a difference for some families who will see “what to do with God” at home!



  3. Regina Jennings on November 5, 2012 at 1:20 PM

    Such a timely, truthful post! I think with our love for the glib and the sarcastic it’s hard for people to hold to a belief and say “This is truth. This is holy.” Doing so invites ridicule. Somehow it feels more sophisticated to eternally ponder and never reach a conclusion. Yes, it’s tragic because refusing to decide ultimately means rejecting the truth.

    Thanks for the thoughtful discussion.



    • Natasha @ Christian Mom Thoughts on November 27, 2012 at 2:14 PM

      Thanks so much Regina! It’s very true that most people see it as “more sophisticated to eternally ponder and never reach a conclusion.” The problem seems to lie in the assumption that coming to a conclusion isn’t important. Or, people think it’s important but assume they have all the time in the world. It’s a very challenging environment to raise kids in!



  4. Sharon Nichols Young on November 5, 2012 at 5:44 PM

    I can see how people develop a belief in not believing anything in particular… for example, one single panel cartoon I saw recently had a Catholic high priest of some sort coming down one side and a Muslim down another of two roads meeting at a corner, and both carried signs saying something to the effect of my way is truth, your way is a myth. I wish I could remember the caption, but it was poking fun at people who choose to believe in ANYTHING as being ignorant. Add to that the label of “intolerant” if you say that someone else’s sin is actually sin… and the pressure to be ambiguous becomes enormous. I really think most who choose this don’t want to think about it and so hide their heads in the sand.



    • Natasha @ Christian Mom Thoughts on November 27, 2012 at 2:18 PM

      Well said, Sharon. The pressure to be ambiguous IS enormous. It makes it all the more important to educate our kids not just on our own faith but on the beliefs of others, and ultimately on how to think conceptually about matters of faith. Otherwise, the onslaught of premises such as “if you can’t answer all the questions, it must not be true” becomes a burden that crushes a developing faith.